One of the danger areas in our relationships is when we become too of anything. Watch out for the toos and your relationships will be much more peaceful.
You’ve just come home from a busy day at work or elsewhere and someone wants to discuss a topic you don’t want to right now. But you are seemingly forced into it, and an argument happens.
There are many toos in our relationships, and while some are good, many are not. Too angry, upset, tired, controlling, tense, and many more are all ones to watch out for before they sabotage your relationship with someone you care about.
If you let your love for someone blind you to problems in their life that need help, you can get yourself in a mess. Some people believe they can change others to their liking once the nuptials are over, but it doesn’t work that way.
If you really love someone you will accept them for who and what they are, but be aware of the pitfalls that could sink your relationship with them. The Bible tells us to “be wise like a serpent but gentle as a dove”. Don’t ignore the danger signs and use God’s wisdom to help you, that is the way to happiness with someone else.
Wait until another time to discuss subjects that could erupt into arguments and worse, when both of you are in a better frame of mind and not too tired or whatever. Watch your words and actions also during these times so you don’t damage what has been built perhaps over many years. A heart is a tender thing, and needs to be cared for with a loving manner. Think about the impact of what you are about to say or do before you do or say it, because it may be too late if you wait until after it is said or done. It is better to keep it inside than to hurt someone. Ask God for wisdom to say it a different way that is creative and still gets the point across.
God wants you to be happy, but you won’t be if you are always too something. If you truly care about that special person in your life, then you will think about what you do and say, instead of doing them impulsively. God wants you to ask for His wisdom because He loves you and wants you to have great relationships. But you can only have this if you put Him at the center of that relationship, a conscious choice on your part and that of your partner.
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