Are you in love with a man but feel that you are being swallowed up by the relationship which you have with him? How would you like to take control of your relationship instead of feeling that you are being taken advantage of? How much happier would you be with yourself if you knew that you could truly be with someone without losing who you are in the process? If you are ready to take control of your relationship today then here are three things which you have to do…
The first one is to asses where you stop and where he begins. It is typical of people who are in relationships where they are being controlled to have a blurred sense of personal boundaries. Sit down and decide what parts of your life you have handed over to him, what choices he has made that you really need to be making and what emotions you are feeling that you believe he is ‘making’ you feel.
When doing this, it is very important to be honest with yourself about the part that you may be playing in giving him control. Are you saying: “I don’t care, whatever you want to do.” When you go out with him? Are you finding that when you are angry or sad or upset that you are always looking to him to make it right? Are there things which he says that you are doing wrong that you honestly feel that are not wrong?
If so, you need to reassert your responsibility over these things. Do not wait for him to change, that is giving him control all over again. Set some standards for yourself and stand by them. Let him decide whether or not be thinks they are OK with him, but don’t change if you feel that you are betraying yourself in doing so.
You are not responsible for another person’s standards, expectations or perceptions. If he feels that you should be that is not your problem. Put a higher value on yourself and be responsible for the areas where you may have given up control. This will empower you to take control of your relationship immediately.
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
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